A young Nigerian woman, Na’ima Hudu, wrote a reassuring note to women about her intention to handle their husband in a way that benefits everyone if she becomes a second wife.
In a Facebook post on Saturday, June 22, 2024, she outlined a thoughtful plan to ensure a harmonious marriage as a second wife, avoiding unhealthy competition and harmful practices.
Na’ima promised not to mistreat their children or interfere with calls or chats between the first wife and their husband. She emphasized that she has no intention of competing with the first wife and sees her as a sister in Islam.
She assured that she would never resort to superstitious practices and vowed to correct their husband if he behaves poorly. Na’ima also mentioned that her family would support and respect the first wife, and she would treat the first wife’s children as her own out of fear of Allah’s punishment.
She acknowledged that jealousy is normal but stressed the importance of not hurting each other. She committed to not disturbing the first wife’s time with their husband, except in emergencies or important matters, and prayed for blessings in their shared marriage.
Read what she wrote below;
“If your husband informs you he would be getting married to me as a second wife, please wifey, do not panic! Because…
I am not getting married to our husband to compete with you, you’re my sister in Islam and that we share same husband doesn’t make either of us bad women.
By Allah, visiting seers and soothsayers aren’t in my blood, I never saw my mum nor sisters go diabolical and with Allah’s guidance I will NEVER tow that path till I take my last breath.
“I will never encourage our husband’s bad behaviors even when it is towards to you. I will try as much as I can to always bring his mind to it whenever he is towing the wrong path. I do not want to know if your wife is a weakling in za oza room or her food tastes horrible.
“My friends, sisters or even parents would not have that chance to advice, hurt or treat you or your kids badly, I do not even have family members to do this. My sisters are yours, just as my mum is your mum, if I offend you, call my mum to lay a complain. In fact, my sisters would tilt more towards you and always support you as they are all first wives and them dey beef me
Know that your children are mine too and my household is always open for them to come in anytime! I do not fear your reactions when I treat them wrongly but I fear Allah’s punishment. So know that, even when you’re absent, I won’t harm them.
“It is absolutely normal for us get jealous, especially when our husband begins to tilt or becomes fond of one of us more. However, what isn’t normal, is trying to hurt me in whatever way or paint me bad to our husband just to gain his pity.
“When it’s your day, I am going to try not to interrupt with calls nor chats so you could have a swell time together, plus i expect same from you. Of course, not in the case of emergencies or even important matters.
So, no fear my sister and I pray Allah blesses our marriage with our husband.”
